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One of the largest (by land and population) cities in North America and Business Capital of Canada, Toronto is a city where everyone plays by the rules and everyone is by default scared of everything they don’t know or have not been already exposed to.

By definition, people in this city are afraid of “strangers”, something imbedded in the original WASP Torontonian culture that has been exponentially increasing by the arrival of a majority of persecuted immigrants who have been in some way discriminated back home.

This further adds to the already pathetic, shy and insecure social culture already existing in Toronto years before the arrival of these immigrants.

The key problem with Toronto’s social catastrophy is the “social deadend”, which basically means: friends that you have gathered in the early years of your life up until your early 20’s are pretty much the only friends that you will associate with in the later years of your life with few exceptions.

This is as a result of a shyness and hesitation from lack of friendliness and acceptance of someone that you don’t already know. The city is POLITE, but completely UNFRIENDLY!

As a result, the average Torontonian is dependent on the people that he/she usually hangs out with for everything and does not know what to do when left alone.

Toronto is the capital of FACEBOOK as it hosts the largest number of FB users in the World. This is a direct result of the social unfriendliness of the city because its people turned to technology to communicate with the same people that they don’t have immediate access to, and make themselves feel better in a narcissistic way. Any ‘Like’ or a ‘Comment’ on their profile increases their happiness level. And instead of meeting someone new or just enjoying the day, they send 20 text messages a minute to any friend they have, hoping for a response which will make them feel less lonely and satisfy their social appetite while at the same time justifying not interacting with anyone new.

This culture is also fueled by the vast amount of diversity in the city. The illusion of Toronto being a diverse UTOPIA is quickly understood as soon as someone lives here for a few months.

Since there is no dominant ethnic majority other than the original WASP Torontonians and because of this anti-social culture pre-existent of the mass arrivals of a very diverse group of newcomers, all newcomers are forced to associate with people like themselves in order to satisfy their social appetite. Hence, the most popular question you get asked in this city is: “What is your background?”

Toronto, however, is a GREAT place to explore CAREER opportunities or if you are an employer and want to settle your BUSINESS. Because the majority of the city is made up of immigrants who have fled their motherland, they will turn their life upside down and put up with the day to day task of any job with few complaints.

This fact, mixed with the no eye-contact, unfriendly but POLITE culture in Toronto makes for a perfect CORPORATE environment.

Seeing this from an employers perspective, the employees come to work and do the job with few complaints, being extremely cautious of what they say (being POLITE), while at the same time, not making friends that would otherwise cause low productivity.

Adding to this, the employees are then dissatisfied because they have not fulfilled their social appetite. In order to make up for this, they spend money on things they don’t need, which is GREAT for companies and businesses selling those products and in turn add to the opportunities that can be explored in Toronto.

The fear of the “stranger” creates a perfect work environment. You are polite but you do not make friends. This limited POLITE interaction becomes a way to advertise (short-sell) yourself.

You do this in the best possible way, often times overcompensating for a mediocre career and an average life.

This creates a pretentious culture, that is HIGH even for a big city.

To compare, Torontonians are less likely to give you the time of day that New Yorkers even though they hold less desirable jobs and make less money.

In order to further define the Ethnic Composition:

The original Torontonian culture is closely associated with the OLD CONSERVATIVE BRITISH ROYAL culture. You are polite, do not make eye contact with strangers and do not get to know someone easily.

The other dominant group is ASIANS: they derive from an equally shy culture, further adding negative social dynamics to the city, they respect their elders (often times when they are wrong). In Asian culture, tradition is valued and the ELDERS opinion carries great weight. This further contributes to the already unfriendly Conservative culture already existing in the city.

All other groups, find themselves in a culture clash, because they see their values, such as friendship, friendliness in the workplace and open society and the freedom to say what is on your mind without being overly cautious, being destroyed. This furthermore contributes to the social dead end phenomena which is so common in this city.

DATING

The social catastrophe that is Toronto changes the Dating dynamics.

Meeting someone becomes harder because individuals are dependant on their immediate social circle to meet new people. The fear of strangers and the reluctance to get to know someone new, along with the vast diverse population of the city, who have to find someone like themselves due to religious, community and the most prevalent family pressure makes it even harder. To sum up: MOST PEOPLE STICK TO THEIR OWN.

This creates a perfect environment for online dating. Nowhere in North America is online dating more prevailing than in Toronto. It is the host city for Online Dating GURUS such as Plenty of Fish creator …. And Lavalife creator …… This is another example of Torontonians turning to technology to satisfy their social appetite.

In order to understand this phenomenon and to better understand the social dynamics of this city, we have to look at the most typical online dater:

The majority are obviously men who are unwilling to wait weeks, months or sometimes years for a woman to fall into their arms through their social networks, otherwise known as “conventional means” of dating.

The others are women similarly in the same situation. These women are often new to the city (and by “new”, they have been here for years and have not been able to to fit in and understand the social culture, hence being frustrated from this city).

Another dominant group are people of a non-white ethnic background. These are people refusing to accept their traditional community or family pressure or are having a hard time being accepted more openly through “conventional means”.

Lastly, the other significant dominant group is local women who have previously been a slave to the social stigma in Toronto and are frustrated with their life and relationship history. They are tired of having one way (the conventional way aforementioned) of meeting men.

These women are usually in their 30’s and 40’s and are frustrated with themselves for playing by “the rules” and being socially dependant to their immediate social circle. In other words, they realize that they have wasted their youth with men in sometimes very long relationships simply because it was socially acceptable to do so.

These women now do the opposite of what they have done before.

They are more open, aggressive and assertive when they see something they want. Often times this is a man 10 years younger than them. These women are trying to recapture their youth and unfortunately this is a growing group which is turning into the largest group of female online daters.

This explanation can be easily transferred to any other meeting environment such as a bar/club/coffee shop/park etc.

The women that are more open, confident, accepting and assertive, belong to this group. These women are done with their insecure ways and are trying to enjoy what is left of their dating life.

More and more women are falling into this group after years of accepting Toronto’s social norms. After years of neglecting being secure with themselves and going after what they want and after years of wasting time on relationships they were unhappy in, they are now doing that they want past their PRIME.

This group will only grow and Toronto will become a paradise for COUGARS or people dating in their mid 30’s, 40’s and possibly into their 50’s.

This growth will double because women belonging to ethnic minorities will have the economic freedom to refuse their family pressures and traditional norms.